Monday, January 27, 2014

''How to condition yourself after a breakup (for girls only)''

Once upon a time, you were in a relationship, happy thoughts, ravishing smiles, sweet thoughts, lovely greeting cards, anniversary souvenirs, candy wrappers in old coat's pockets, sparkling eyes, butterflies in your stomach, insomnia in the night, kisses and hugs, ''good morning'' texts in your inbox so on and so forth. Ahhh! imagining yourself in an aisle with you and your guy in an altar. But after all this fantasies, it totally went down after an unresolved issue. Is it your hairstyle? your make up? your attitude? or being stood up? It really hurts you most when you two didn't had a serious closure. Well, I have 5 tips/ advise for you to carry on and realizing that he isn't the perfect guy! ;)

1. Don't be bitter. Be better!
When you and your boyfriend broke up, try not to communicate to him. Unfriend him on facebook, delete his number or just block him on your messenger. This will help especially when you two are just living in a distant street. After months of ignoring him. Think of all the good things when you and your boyfriend are still together. Good memories like when you were in your first date, your first movie together, you're favorite song, your weekend getaway or even your first night together. First things first, you were so happy with him so why not think those old good days and take that as a reflection to yourself on how and what did your ex liked about you. Don't be bitter even though someone had taken your place as his new girlfriend. It's also your chance to stay up alone and wait for your right guy to come.

2. Have a makeover.
Why not shop for yourself? Go try a new hairstyle? New fragrance? Work on for abs? Or having a new trend for your tees? Isn't it refreshing to have a new aura after a breakup? It really works! I bet ya! Go the salon and fix those tangling hairdos.

3. Make yourself busy.
Make your life a bit tough sometimes. Find challenges, get along with work, be enthusiastic. But never forget not to be workaholic and stress yourself up. Find ways to make yourself happy and not thinking him all the way through. Give time to yourself and think of all the things you've missed. Take some coffee breaks with your work mates, I bet he didn't like you to chitchat with your male workmates. Have lunch with your old buddies. Make some overtime. 

4. Cry
Cry alone. It's ok to cry alone especially when your alone in the night. It is pretty normal to cry especially to a guy you loved before in the first 2-3 months. Sooner or later you will get tired and face each day with a smile. I used to cry alone even though it's 6 months after we broke up. Because you couldn't imagine him with someone else now. But carry on, life goes on. You will fine better than him and soon realized why you never worked out. 

5. Change your perspective. Don't expect your standards. Meet and Greet
Change your taste in regards to boys. Change your preferences. Life is too short why not try to have new lover for the mean time and if doesn't sounds good for your appetite. You can easily practice this advises over and over again. Just make sure, you don't do it for rebounds. Explain to him in the first place,what is his role after your breakup. And after doing this things, sooner or later you will realized the situations

Have fun girl! Cheer up!